Grief & Loss
You should be over it by now.
We often associate grief with the loss of a loved one or when death occurs, but nobody talks about the other reasons why grief can show up in life.
Making it through your chaotic childhood and being different versions of yourself to survive can create grief because you are unsure of who you are and how to fit in with everything around you.
Loss can occur when people no longer fit into your life, even if the relationship still feels like a huge part of who you are. Having an all-consuming job is hard to give up, even if you know moving on is for the best. Even reflecting on your life can cause you to grieve the life you had.
The passage of time during COVID created a big pause in your life, making things feel disconnected. What did you lose out on by navigating the unknown in all of that? Perhaps the pandemic caused you to have a different mindset or worsened things once the pace of life picked up again.
It’s hard to explain to others exactly how you feel.
Some things can’t be rushed.
It’s getting harder to quiet your mind. There is an ache you feel wanting to stay connected with a past life, but a discomfort around discovering what it means to move forward.
Whatever the loss or fork in the road, you wonder why you can’t get over things yet. Instead, you’d prefer to “focus on the good” rather than hold a grudge or stay stuck in the past.
You wish you could skip to the good parts, where all the bad stuff is processed, life looks way better, and all the challenging feelings are dealt with and neatly tucked away.
Maybe this is just how I am now?
It takes as long as it takes.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve the people or things you’ve lost. You are worth taking the time to explore this feeling eating you up inside.
In a fast-paced world that demands you should get over things – painful things – quickly, I invite you to have the courage to slow down and sit with the grief and loss.
In our work together, I will never rush you through your feelings. We will find the opportunities to grieve the things you don’t have time for during your busy life and find ways forward that make sense for the person you are becoming.
Grief & loss can be overwhelming, but it is a natural process that is highly individualized and requires time sitting in the unknown.
Contact me today, and let’s address your grief & loss. We can sit in that unknown together; the only way out is through.